@technicallydifficult @emiliamicrosystems @desea 3rd spaces can be a hard thing. I am in luck generally that they do exist for me in a sense. Though getting there reliably can be hard for me tbh. I am just not very good with people and feel awkward pretty quickly
But I did find some home in things like hacker-spaces or queer-adjestcant establishments like that one cafe that exists.
If there are no third spaces the normal wisdom would imply that creating your own third space might be an idea to do. I know that does sound scary and with americas more than shitty infra this can suck even more.
I did think of doing the same for a specific hobby but never did so since I fear it kinda lol. Maybe I can get myself to that...