@NeonPurpleStar I know that feeling xD. Both in terms of feeling of fitting in with queers (as a crossdresser, who is still straight) and also sometimes I feel not enough of a tech nerd on fedi.
But I have met both very nice queer people (who even have some patience with misgendering them on the TRPG Table here and there...) and also more than enough who are programmers themselves but are also very fine with people just interested in tech xD (Some of the tech stuff just flies over my head)